The Advantage of Independence
To son or wife, to brother or friend, do not give power over yourself, as long as you live; and do not give your property to another, in case you change your mind and must ask for it.
Devotion by Julia Shiver
Chris and I have spent the day discussing this text. Although not very profoundly. It is the day after Christmas, after all. We talked about this scripture in light of our relationship. We are a team, one functioning unit. But we each value the independence of the other. We are separate individuals. We have very different gifts, strengths, and weaknesses. We could each live our life entirely on our own. But we accomplish so much more together.
That kind of relationship takes a long time to build. First, you have to know who you are, what you want out of life, what your values are, what is important to you. Second, you look for someone who shares those values, that outlook on life. And then comes the long work of becoming a team, but one in which each remains an individual. I hate the wedding custom of the two lighting the unity candle together. That part is fine. But then they each blow out their own candle.
This all leads me to think of the relationship between a church and her pastor. We are taking time to discover our values, our strengths, our weaknesses, who we want to be in the world. Then we’ll look for someone who shares those values, maybe is strong where we are weak. But with time, we can become a healthy functioning church together. If we put in the work, we can create the right relationship. One where we and our pastor feel fulfilled, but retain that ever important independence. A relationship from which great work can be accomplished. God’s work.
Please be with us in the coming weeks as we put the final touches on our profile and put it out for the world to see. Be with us as we work to find the right relationship with a settled pastor. And please be with us as we seek to do your work in the world, together, in your name. Amen.